The ten kits of response to the child not obedient
Many parents may ask: the child not obedient when what should I do? The following ten kits is considered to be effective, it is recommended that you might as well try.
1. Friendly attitude when talking to your children - if you use normal tone and amiable attitude, children will be more likely to hear you say seriously.
2. The suspended - when children are temporarily unable to accept your request, even when a dispute with the child, must control their emotions, you can say: "I don't want to deal with this problem now. Let's to talk about it later."
3. Teach children reason - when children make mistakes or act rude, don't punish him immediately, should be in a friendly tone to education should pay attention to his behavior and manner. "You over toys should not litter everywhere, the next time please put it in where it should be, your toy is a toy shelf. Complete toy should make it back to his home, just like you, if you have done in the outside, I put you on the street don't let you go home, you feel right?"
4. The starting point of speech to actively, don't like to say to the children, "I want to say how many times you will go to brush your teeth?" And it should be said, "go brush your teeth, I want to know when can you finish, I want to see if you can brush very clean."
5. Explain to the child rather than a threat, when the child to tell you why he do so, you should give the child a the right of explanation, let he briefly explain why he need to do it, then explain where do wrong to him, he have a reason to do so, and the right thing to do.
6. Cherish every opportunity, should not all the attention focused on the child's inappropriate behavior, in fact, every conflict, is the opportunity that our education child, don't you let it go, make good use of this opportunity to improve the occasion education your children.
7. Give some incentives - can only word slice speech to encourage your child through a cooperative way to encourage his enterprising, similar words are: "you see, other children can do, you is not bad at all, you can do better than them, right?"
8. Flexible - if your child asks: "before we go back, I can finish see this show?" If you still have some time left, we should give up some time to give your child. You should respect the child the right to request.
9. Get rid of the threat of force - when there is a problem, don't say: "you if again so that you quickly the beaten!" "Why do remember last time I hit you?" The threat of force is a big mistake, especially more should not mention before caused pain to the child. Threat of force can only let the child think you are a absolute rough parent, and the more refused to cooperate with you.
10. The evaluation of education methods should be diversified, the discovery of children make a mistake, don't use every time a face, a form of reasoning, the child will feel tired. You can change some things, evaluation, try a variety of ways children can accept. Such as simple processing first problem arise. And then when have time by telling stories, playing games, go to the zoo, trip, visiting a museum and so on form, combining see hear things deeply to clarify you want to tell him the truth. In the conflict, the children are often not easy to accept criticism, but after the event for the patient education, children are easy to accept.